Of course the game is rigged. Don’t let that stop you—if you don’t play, you can’t win. (Robert Heinlein)
Games can be deadly serious
Chess, poker, basketball and football are just games. Some people study those games intently and never play themselves. Others study the games and get into the competitions, contemplating victory and risking defeat. Those who watch from comfortable chairs and never participate, can never know the struggle and thrill of victory, nor the cleansing scourge of defeat. The quiet careful critics will never grow a hundredth as much as the rankest loser grows.
Look at your job search like your favorite game or sport
That job or promotion you have applied for 5 or 10 times may really be out of reach for you. That doesn’t mean you should stop trying. At least you are in the game. You will never win if you quit the field of battle.
Out of work? Every job you apply for is a new game. Every time an employer calls you is a victory. The next game is the interview. Another game starts in the second interview. Negotiating your salary is another game. The day you start the job a new competition begins.
Look at it as a game. For a game you study techniques and practice them over and over. You also study the great winners and losers. If you want to be great, you also study the mediocre masses because you have to find out why they are merely mediocre. If you want to win, you have to know how to defeat each of your opponents. A coach is also essential. Your coach will be called a mentor, recruiter or friend. Find the most successful person you can and ask for them to give you advice on what you should learn, study and practice next. Practice, prepare and then execute. If you lose 20 times it won’t really kill you. Look at it as a game. The only thing that really kills you is giving up and leaving the game for good.
If there is a job or promotion you want but just can’t seem to win, make a game out of it. Play. Have some serious fun with it.
Something To Do Today
Make your job growth a game. How can you learn to play it at a Super Bowl level? Who can be your coach? Get back in the game. Play.
Out of work? Job hunting? Make it a game. Study. Keep trying.
Tomorrow: Before you know it
Later: Who is driving?
An actor asks himself, “What is my motivation?” The rest of us laugh at him. He’s trying to figure out which way to face on a stage.
Ice cream used to motivate me. I’d walk on hot coals to get it. I still like ice cream, but it won’t get me to detour 100 yards to a store now. Sometimes leaving work early is a great motivator. Some days a chance to go for a walk will get me to work hard. Winning is a great motivator at times. Sometimes letting my kid just barely win is a motivator. What motivates me changes hourly, daily, weekly and monthly.
Getting a job is often not enough of a motivator in your job search. To avoid pain, unmotivated people spend hours in front of a computer “playing” with job boards. There is no need to call people and admit you want a new job. Lack of real motivation is behind taking friends out to eat instead of creating a network by eating with more helpful strangers.
I have come to the conclusion that my subjective account of my motivation is largely mythical on almost all occasions. I don’t know why I do things. (Lloyd Dobens)
Use motivation in two ways.
- Figure out what motivates you to avoid a job hunting method
- Use motivation to get you to work harder.
Real networking is difficult for many. Calling up a company and asking for the manager, VP, CFO or President is impossible for many people. Try to figure out why that call is difficult, while a call to HR (Human Resources) is easy. HR knows less about jobs than the VP of Operations does. If fear or embarrassment keeps you from making calls to real decision makers, admit it. Talk about it with someone. Make some commitments and work your way through it.
Making a few MORE contacts can also be difficult. Find rewards that will get you to make a few more calls and submit more resumes. It can be that you will only watch your TV show if you get 3 more resumes out or make 3 more calls. Set a goal of only going golfing if you are taking a potential hiring manager from another company. Decide you won’t turn on the computer until you have made 4 follow up calls where you have submitted your resume.
Think of what motivates you today. Admit roadblocks and work around them. Find little incentives you can give yourself to do just a little more in your job search.
Something To Do Today
Choose one activity you avoid. Give yourself an incentive to do it. Now do it.
Tomorrow: Waiting for the “help wanted” sign
Calls to companies
Intelligent use of recruiters
Get famous, get a job
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Job hunting triumphs come often. Getting a job is always the cumulative result of a hundred victories. Those victories should be celebrated over and over in your mind. Yes, you need to notice that you failed to finish the next step, but you shouldn’t focus on a defeat and exclude the victories leading up to that step.
If you send out 100 resumes and get 3 phone calls, you succeeded 103 times! You sent out 100 resumes, a feat many job seekers never equal. You also got 3 calls from your resume. It worked.
You called 10 recruiting shops and 1 invited you in for an interview. 10 calls is a great adventure, and one success in 10 calls is wonderful. Stock salesmen often make 200 calls in a day with absolutely no success. Getting one interview is great. Making 10 calls is a victory.
I had an executive make it to the final list of 3 candidates for a high level job. Another candidate was chosen. All he could see was that for the 7th time in 3 months he had failed to get the job. He could not focus on some delightful facts:
1. He was referred to me by his network.
2. His resume was very good.
3. I thought highly enough of him to recommend him.
4. He got the first phone interview.
5. An executive flew across the country to interview him.
6. He came to the facility he would lead and passed 6 more interviews.
7. He made it to the short list of final candidates.
What a monumental chain of victories! This was a phenomenal set of accomplishments. Yet, he couldn’t see his successes when the process was done. All he looked at was that he missed the final cut. He got depressed and self critical. It got so bad that I couldn’t recommend him to another company. He took a job he dislikes with a company he doesn’t respect. That job lets him stop the pain of focusing on his occasional failures. He was not desperate financially. He was desperate to win because he stopped seeing his successes.
Take the time to relive your successes every hour of your job search. You will find your attitude soars. You don’t make the cut? Relive every successful step getting there. Include finding out about the job, applying, getting a call, arriving on time, etc. All those are feats showing your prowess. Go ahead relive them in your mind. You deserve it.
Something To Do Today
Get your job journal out. List the 3 jobs you have gotten closest to winning. Even if it was just making a phone call or sending a resume. List all the steps you executed successfully to get to that point. Include all the little ones. Relive those successes. “You done good, little fella.”
It is wonderful how quickly you get used to things, even the most astonishing. (Edith Nesbitt)
What does being unusual have to do with getting a job? A lot. Because everyone is unusual in some way.
Everyone knows you can’t run for Governor and expect to win if you are a professional wrestler who wears feather boas. It is worse if you are a radio talk show host who is conservative AND liberal at the same time. Jesse Ventura became a Governor by being all these things. He got a lot of politicians upset and confused. He also did a great job of running the state. But, less than half the people voted for him.
My partner and I offend some people. We do it by being ourselves. We are not purposely obnoxious. We are friendly and inoffensive by our standards. We just believe in being open, honest, and having fun. We have a theory that we can either try to be bland inoffensive gray, or we can enjoy work being just who we are. We can’t do both. We have found a LOT of people who like it when we are ourselves. Even the candidates who literally leave our office in tears because we are candid with them, send their friends to us. But some people refuse to do business with us. We choose to pay that price.
We don’t set out to be obnoxious. Neither should you. If that nose jewel is just an accessory, don’t wear it to the interview. If you will not work without it, wear it. The same thing goes for a beard. Dress up in the best way you know how for an interview. Make your resume as professional AND personal as possible. Use good manners always. Be honest. Be yourself. Also understand that whether you dress very conservatively or outrageously, you will be judged as a bad fit for some jobs. Just make the choice consciously.
There are jobs for programmers, salespeople, bankers and accountants in very conservative companies. The jobs also exist in companies that have bizarre office paint jobs, people with pink hair and pierced tongues, and parking lot hockey games at lunch. I can point out such companies deep in Amish country in Lancaster, PA. All companies want team players who fit into their very different cultures.
Let’s be honest. The more unusual you are, the more exceptional your accomplishments have to be. Don’t set out to offend or shock people. Be as nice and sociable as you can. Fit in with company culture wherever possible. Just don’t be afraid to be a little different, to be yourself.
Something To Do Today
Call my office after 6 pm and go to my voice mail. (717)975-9001. Bryan Dilts is the name. I change my message occassionally. My message is “very unprofessional” according to many. It also sets me apart in the minds of people who hear it.